About three years ago, I read a book. I don't remember for sure, but I think the title was Confessions of a Slacker Mom. I was quite entertained as I read it, and, when I had finished it, I concluded that I, too, was a "Slacker Mom."
As I mentioned a couple posts ago, sometimes I let my kids do somewhat dangerous things, like run on the treadmill. I also let them climb fences, do karate (with the understanding that if you play, you can't cry or get mad when you get hurt), play on anything they dare to at the playground, and a host of other things. I also don't pad up the corners of my counters, or do all those kind of things to assure your child never gets hurt. I guess I figure that the quickest way they'll learn if something is dangerous or could hurt is by personal experience. Me saying, "Don't do that" isn't nearly as effective as them thinking, "Wow. I'll never do that again!" Now, don't get me wrong. I do believe in safety, and if something is life-threatening, I certainly don't want them to learn that the hard way. But a few bumps and bruises just might help them learn some common sense that could be valuable in the long run.
Secondly, I don't have my kids on the fast track to Harvard. I do believe in playing with them and reading to them, but I have no desire to teach my 9-month old to read (like I've seen at a home party), I don't buy Baby Mozart, and I'm unwilling to fork out the big bucks for that special, better-get-on-the-waiting-list-when-they're-born, preschool. I figure if my kids know their colors, shapes, can count, and know some letters when they go to kindergarten, they'll be just fine. So maybe I'm sacrificing Harvard. Is that all bad? Who can afford it anyway?
Third, and I might take some major criticism for this one, I let my kids ingest some germs at times. For example, I have seen my kids eat popcorn, skittles, and other snacks that they find on the bleachers at sporting events. I don't necessarily encourage this behavior. I simply look the other way and pretend I don't see it. That way, I don't have to buy them a treat, they get their immune system boost for the day, and other moms don't know what a slacker I am because they think I didn't see it. Sometimes I really question myself on this one, but last winter my kids never got sick, and all the germaphobe moms I know had theirs on antibiotics all winter. Go figure.
Fourth, my kids sometimes look like orphans. Mylie's hair is often a sight in the morning, and when I put her to bed some nights, I realize that I never did do anything about it. I know a lot of moms like to bathe their kids every day, but I don't. I figure a couple baths a week is sufficient. Connor has a very obsessive personality, and he likes certain clothes a lot more than others at times. I have been known to let him wear the same outfit 2 or even 3 days in a row before making him wear something new. I just figure that if we're not going anywhere, and it's not TOO dirty, it's just not worth the fight. Besides, if it has a little spill on it, nobody will really know if that happened this morning or day before yesterday.
Fifth, sometimes I let some things in my house slide. For example, right now my house is so dusty, it's really not dust anymore. It's more like dirt. I know that this will probably flare up our allergies or something, but how does a mom do it all? You have to slack a little somewhere, don't you?
Now before passing judgement, let me say this. I LOVE my kids! I want what's best for them, and I really try to do a good job. But with some things, I guess I'm just a slacker. Am I all alone in this? If you have any "slacker mom" traits, please share and ease my conscience just a little. PLEASE!!!
The Hearts of the Children
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